Crying after socializing reddit I need to recharge alone for the rest of the night. If it's a big party with tons of people, it gets really bad. Hell, I've gotten over 99% of my social anxiety and if anyone did this to me, I would break down crying and lose faith in humanity for a while too. I feel very depressed after a lot of social events. Crying about it definitely feels good, but after therapy I always feel like a pile of shit. Sometimes I get so exhausted that I literally have no energy to think or talk anymore. I was crying after having a really fun day and it just didn’t make sense. And allowing the tears to free fall. I feel better. If you feel negative, unliked, or depressed once alone it is most likely because you do not like yourself and are subliminally questioning yourself. They are in one word overwhelming. As a loner, I cry reading all my previous text messages . Being too out of social battery has left me with full-blown meltdowns at times, so I have to be pretty strict with my boundaries. Another friend told me it's her therapy, she goes for walks and then cries over whatever she's feeling, she feels better after Crying means you have a soft heart, easily moved. Other people's social success doesn't take away from your worth. Like social anxiety, but instead of feeling it before a social situation, I feel it after. For me, it's mostly because after I make one mistake, I tend to remember everything I've done wrong in past social situations, focus on how much I think I'm a loser because of all that, the lost opportunities, annnnd yeah, it just brings up all sorts of memories that make After parties and stuff when I get back home I feel really depressed and don't feel like speaking to anyone. Like this intense annoyance that they're still in my home. But crying releases stress hormones. This thread is hilarious but honestly, I'd say cry first, then skincare. I always sing the first line of the song “Estranged” by Guns N Roses “When you are talking to yourself and nobody’s home”. I suffer from brain fatigue after a stroke, it definitely didn’t make my introvert ass better 馃槄 Persian weddings are a box of noise and music and talking and colorfull dresses and everything. Pretty self explanitory. I wouldn't want my husband to give me pity sex because I was crying. GameStop Moderna Pfizer Johnson & Johnson AstraZeneca Walgreens Best Buy Novavax SpaceX Tesla. It’s happened my entire life and even though I know it’s good for me to put myself out there , I just feel awful after it’s over. Yess I do cry easy and I think that it is easy for me to cry is not a bad thing at all. Posted by u/V0st0 - 609 votes and 27 comments I know it's usually human nature to do small talk, but with me, I just can't. 172 votes, 69 comments. Crying for about an hour. i remember this was how it used to be for me at my job a couple of months ago before i was let go. I think all 5 people in the flat cried after their parents left so its pretty normal. Constantly socializing 24/7 for more than 2 days sounds like hell to me. Looking back, I think I was subconsciously extremely tense the whole time and felt like I couldn't be myself. After a while he started crying about some personal stuff. Friedrich Nietzsche (1844–1900) was a German philosopher and cultural critic who published intensively in the 1870s and 1880s. I feel Exactly like you do. It's like an over stimulation hangover. I actually thought I was going to be happy to be home but for some reason everything appears bland, boring and just „depressing“. The girls are so pretty, they’re successful, they’re in relationships etc. I feel overwhelmed from the thought of socializing. I tried to meet with friends, visited them etc. It'll get easier over time. When I was at UCLA and I started trying to have a social life senior year, that’s the first time I failed a class. Also after I get any kind of award or recognition. How lost she might feel. That's normal. I also Cry very easy and my family also tend to mock me about it. But if I can't stop crying or stop only for a moment just to start crying again, then I need to lie down, away from lights (the crying headaches, they're the worst and come with sensitivity to light) and try to calm down by distracting myself, and it sometimes works, even distracting with focusing on patterns on a wall or something. All from the reaction to our tears. I'll get overly-sad about things that wouldn't normally get to me. But I do cry often - mostly when I watch sad movies or wholesome happy movies. A place to share or ogle at fancy pictures of yours or others' guitars and related instruments. It's a very different experience. Sometimes I go home and sob after because I feel like I was so awkward I ruined everything. Sure, my body changing is fantastic; but before I had two emotions: “Ok” and “Bad”, and what passed for sadness tended to just result in anger, which just made me feel worse. I feel exhausted and irritable and sometimes depressed. I get home and the post-social comedown hits me, it always makes me extra-emotional and prone to crying. I feel so much more now, and sometimes its very intense. Often after hanging out with a friend, having a big "day out", or being away from home for a long period of time, I would get home and just have a breakdown. Bart trying his best to pass that test and still failing which lead to him crying… It was too much… I resonated with it so much that I broke down crying too. Autism + introversion + bad social anxiety is a real bitch sometimes. I have a hard time keeping eye contact and I’m always everywhere in my conversations and movements. I just got home from visiting my grandma and my aunt that I haven't seen in over a year, we talked for a bit about my future, work and stuff. But, over all, I need alone time bc after socializing for a while, I need me time to recharge my social battery. Before I got better at giving myself social breaks, like chilling in an unoccupied room or even going into a bathroom for 10 minutes to give myself a reset, I would stay until the very end of an event and then just sit in my car and cry uncontrollably for a long time. There is an super intense feeling of cringe, shame, and embarrassment after most social interactions that I have. I do the same thing. But my social anxiety fears quickly disappeared after getting to know people. it took me a bit to come into my own and by the time i finally did i was gone. After really big events (like a really big party of which I was primary planner and emcee), it can take me days to fully recover. After few years I'd say I've become a little less emotional but still, you turn on Star Wars OST - I cry. I think it’s sue to similar reasons, I’ve had a lot of traumatic experiences the past few years. We end up watching a few episodes of our show. I can fully understand you. But, as sad as it sounds, if you don't want your social image to be destroyed don't do that in public, especially if it is kn front of the person who rejected you. Crying out, gesticulating, crying. similarly, when i am not around him, i yearn for his presence. Jan 4, 2025 路 I’m 18F and I cannot stop crying whenever I talk about anything serious with my family, and it goes neutral-bad. But I feel really lonely when I come back home after socializing in the real world. Having teachers who didn’t care for me, just saw me as a burden in their teaching methodologies. I only went to less than 10 weddings and after a while i felt that after each wedding i become extremly upset and drained or might even cry. Even if I'm in a separate room. More than once I've thought I was sharing a hearty laugh with her, only to realize I was laughing while she was having a cry. Some people aren't as exhausting to socialize with and I can go on longer. I went on instagram through a school account and now I’m bitter. it took me about 20 minutes to stop the bleed 馃槶 Yeah there are workplaces that aren’t obnoxiously in your face with the social aspect, but if your goal is to get through life with as little social interaction as possible or avoiding any socialization that doesn’t 100% fit your mold then you will probably always feel a bit out of place. I say the stupidest stuff and sometimes feel like I won’t let folks speak but it’s not intentionally. When our need is great, this can cut deep, to the point of changing our ability/willingness to trust those around us. I even cry watching anime lol 馃槄 I also cry when I get very angry or when I argue with people I love and care for I don’t think this is a bad thing. Cry out and have a good rest. what i will say is it was a good learning experience in the sense that i know i’ll never work in a place like that I know her for more than a decade and she had me in her close friends list but recently, I've been feeling anxiety so high whenever she's around or even if I look at her pic. Whenever I was alone after seeing him I felt immense loneliness, like the life had been sucked out of me. Instead focus on the other things: like how strange, and embarrassed she might feel. So i stopped going to any ceremonies. Crying after Presentations I had an English presentation today, with a partner, and my teacher was aware of my difficulty presenting so right before I started speaking he told me this was my chance to do better. The #1 social media platform for MCAT advice. On both I subscribed to things that would help better my mind a give tips about life. 馃槶 That stronger connection to emotion is the primary reason I wanted HRT. even if it was with close friends who understand that i have social anxiety, i just always come home and analyze everything i did, believe that everyone doesn't want anything to do with me after and distance myself from them im trying to get myself to socialize so i can get better but i always feel so bad after and i go back to my shell when i socialize i this happens to me too. 7. The umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck while I was in labor. Like obviously there's crying when you're overstimulated or about to have a meltdown, but I shut down and start crying when trying to have "difficult" conversations, and the words just don't come out of my mouth, like they refuse to leave. At the same time its not possible to stop letting it out as tears. I liked her metaphor for it so maybe it’ll help some of you: My social energy is like a metal spring. The social hangover. There's social baggage around it, but the root of it is hormones. I routinely sleep really poorly after dinners, parties, any kind of events really. We were drinking and messing around. Apr 6, 2015 路 So i've realized that after hanging out with certain people that i'm not exactly comfortable around, I get in a really depressed and tired feeling mood. And this worse whenever I visit my mother. All of the messages are probably like 6 moths old. So I have no social skills whatsoever, but I do have thoughts. i always feel bad after socializing. To me this meant that even after my mum's death my whole life did not fall apart. Even if there’s nothing I can point to like something weird that I said or did, I’m filled with dread after social situations. I just kind of awkwardly sat next to him and listened to his problems. I feel so much drained these days. P. Since the beginning of HRT I could not watch any WW2 movie - I just cry at a thought of how many people died for nothing :'((. When you are in the moment in a social situation you are feeding off the energy and vibes of others. How I see it, is that if you start breaking down and crying after you get caught cheating, you either really enjoyed being with the person you were cheating on, or you are actively trying to better your reputation to those involved. So, not so long ago I went to a house party to my friend's place. then my nose started bleeding, because of the tissue wiping my tears. I was so anxious that I cried in my room after meeting her. Cheating is already a horrible act, but to cry and act afool afterwards makes it even worse. i know people should not be judged for crying in public, but the fact that it shouldn' t doesn't mean it won't happen. one day i even heard them whispering about me and i couldn’t take it, i started crying in the back. After socializing, after going to a community center or a cousin's house and talking to the people there, I just feel so drained and so depressed… Try to find something funny amidst all that and I think you'll be fine in socializing with new people. But tearing up, and allowing a little emotion to show when appropriate, displays deep empathy and care. I also feel like crying will irritate it more after skincare when my skin is freshly moistened and more susceptible. keep on keeping on. But then, once I get home, I always start to feel the same way after socializing. As I use it, it winds tighter and tighter. lol Basically, most people don’t stop socializing with others when told that they’re here to work not socialize, so this comment basically serves to limit the amount of socialization to an acceptable level (enough to form bonds with colleagues, but not excessive so it doesn’t disturb the work too much). /r/MCAT is a place for MCAT practice, questions, discussion, advice, social networking, news, study tips and more. I find going out with co-workers after work is odd. So like you, certain things can make me sad or angry, but I cannot cry. Ive never had social anxiety and don't feel stressed or anxious when in social environments but for some reason after a while I'll notice my jaw beginning to hurt. Like, I get really angry over a small issue and then I just want to cry after my anger disappears. I don't think I'm an introvert bc I can handle social situations great at times during the moment but bc of that I did some searching and found that I'm probably an omnivert, which seems more fitting with the inconsistent extrovert/introvert-ness so thanks ! My opinion is that I should never be crying harder than the client. You must think about improving yourself every day in the aspects of yourself that you would like to improve. Even sometimes with very close friends this happens. Title pretty much says it all. After hours of socializing I tend to feel detached and tend to over analyze every word I spoke; thinking I offended someone or that everyone hates me. After getting my emotions out, I was no longer in mood. Socially anxious people may be shy/introverted, but shy/introverted people do not necessarily have social anxiety. I feel really depressed and I want to cry. The one skill that’s fundamental in life, I don’t have. I’ve always been a very emotional kid crying all the time I have diagnosed anxiety & Depression and have some trauma but none of it relating to my family. I cry super easily, and it's embarrasing. I feel so empty. John Florea is adamant that Hans-Georg is not sobbing because his world had crumbled but rather due to combat shock after being overrun by the American forces. Things seemed to be going great until we had a 2 hour phone conversation yesterday afternoon, starting at 2. I cry every time after I socialise because I'm just exhausted. Reflect on interactions after the fact Think about interactions you've had after they take place. but afterwards you have more time to analyze and process interactions. Or trying to comfort her while she laughs into my chest. I'm now quite certain I've always had social anxiety and an intense fear of public speaking (always cried uncontrollably the night before), but crying after supposedly having fun didn't make sense even as it was happening. Posted by u/[Deleted Account] - 1 vote and 2 comments Therefore, I have been talking to people online and spent my time going to meetup’s before the qurantine started in order to improve my social skills. Like it could be people I like, but if they don't leave after a certain amount of time I just want to start crying. I just did it right now. Don't be too hard on yourself. Everything was going OK, we were all sitting and playing a game then watched TV and then the socializing began. Sometimes i just take a picture of myself crying because I know the meme value of it for later lmao, even when if im genuinely sad in the moment. I just wish I could come off as cool, but I totally didn’t 馃珷 Any thoughts, advice or comments would be appreciated. In the right circumstances, I have felt safe enough to let go completely. Triggered by perceived or… Okay so I deleted most of my social media but sometimes I go through a school account and every time I go on I feel like sobbing. I like to wash the salt off after, it makes my skin feel raw. I guess? But yelling is the one thing that can actually make me cry. Yep, I was just thinking about this how this happens after most all social situations for me. Use the code like this >!Hayasaka is best girl!<. Pretty sure it has a lot to do with understanding and projecting social cues, like body language and tone. But I’m way older now, I’m a business owner and I’m 34, I feel like I’ve had undiagnosed ADHD my whole life. For me, it was reading tons of books, speech and debate, writing, reading dictionaries even, and my obsession was with learning to use English so well as to reduce any possibility for misunderstandings. I’ve found what works best for me when I feel that way is to choose a night to watch a sad movie and just let it all out. i had a mortifying incident recently where i started crying in a contact with a case worker, and couldn’t stop and in the end just kept crying due to mortification at crying and not being able to stop. It happens to me every time. Thanks you too! Yeah I never thought I was crazy but I thought I had a serious mental illness or I was overly sensitive because I would go from being completely fine enjoying socializing to crying in an attempt to expend all the energy I had been masking Social overstimulation actually makes total sense. We are currently closed in solidarity with the thousands of subreddits participating in a blackout to voice displeasure at the new API changes that kill 3rd party apps and the aggressively dishonest way that Reddit has treated developers of said apps. Grades def slipped as I spent more time socializing and networking. Physical symptoms may include: blushing, excess sweating, trembling, palpitations, and nausea, stammering, along, rapid speech, panic attacks. Shortly after my mums death and her funeral I was like you. This depends on the person also. Dude I feel you so much. Still sluggish. I actually had a client once thank me days later, after tearing up with them, saying "thanks for crying Distress in social situations, causing impaired functioning in daily life. I basically end up crying in his lap while he repeatedly apologized. “Crybaby” seems like my second name from their point of view. How alone she might feel. Crying definitely has much more to it than just feeling better. It will show up like Hayasaka is best girl. Triggered by perceived or actual scrutiny from others. Even extroverts don't get it My cousin told me that they wish they could cry the way I cried most of her like, that's she felt empty. It wasn't sudden but pretty unexpected, at least for me. Don’t know if that would help for you or not. In addition to my social anxiety before and during the event. Sometimes it's almost as if interaction makes you feel even more isolated and detached than normal for a bit afterwards - sort of a social hangover, if you will? Definitely felt this after some really great convos with a few of my cousins at He came rushing into the room asking if I was okay. So then it starts leaking out in other situations. 383K subscribers in the socialanxiety community. I was still in the period of coercion to Yes! I'm not always sad or upset either, it feels like a sort-of social adrenaline dump. Completely understand and support socializing after work if you have work friends that you genuinely enjoy being around, but the pressure put on people to say yes to after work socializing, in efforts to make sure you’re being a team player in order to be “well liked” for reasons of raises and promotions is really weird to me. The MCAT (Medical College Admission Test) is offered by the AAMC and is a required exam for admission to medical schools in the USA and Canada. It's weird because I enjoy being out with my friends, but the day after I just feel really down for some reason. It is mostly because I just feel I cannot connect well with others as they do and I feel like I am an outsider and it makes me feel more alone. After trying to socialize and ending in tears again, I've been doing some research and to socialize with cptsd I apparently should: -approach people when my brain and body scream "danger, run away" -be authentic and vulnerable, but make sure to not over share or trauma dump, as this will make them uncomfortable, or they may be predators Shortly after my mums death and her funeral I was like you. Distress in social situations, causing impaired functioning in daily life. I wouldnt really even know why. I’m usually exhausted the next day but bounce back after that without wanting to cry with everything. 馃槷馃挩 I cringe-cry every time I leave a social situation. It's just annoying how people always say that 'socialising helps' or 'meeting new people is good Social interaction just seems to bring it to the front of my mind. It's nice to see friends and family sometimes, but it's always such a relief when it's over and I can be alone again. Sep 26, 2015 路 I feel very depressed after a lot of social events. After I get home from a social event even if I did fine, good even, I get a crash where I just feel miserable about everything. I decided to delete my social media apps except for YouTube and Reddit. In my experience crying is hormonal not social. We get you. I'm sort of used to it that I actually plan my day to include the sadness. Socialising is also just tiring. It tells of a man whose entire belief system was destroyed and then we are confronted with the reality that he remained active in the church and established the New Baptist Covenant organization for social justice within the Baptist church well after his presidency. Introversion and shyness (personality characteristics) are not social anxiety (mental distress). The last time I saw her was when she came to a gathering when one of our old friends visited us. I think I’m going to get downvoted for days because of this statement but don’t resist your thoughts or emotions. The wedding had many guests. I would've thought that I should feel elated and be like "Damn, we should do this more!", but my real reaction is that I want to avoid the negative feelings afterwards, so it stops me from wanting positive social interactions. Yet, I keep feeling like the complete opposite. I had a few months where id cry after socialising. We're all walking into this together, I suppose. I remember having a conversation about this with my mom when I was a young kid. We weren't talking directly about trauma but I was feeling extremely on edge and once I reached over my emotional threshold that was it. It is completely fine to cry if you are hurt by the rejection. Just full-on crying, exhausted and depressed, ruminating on the events, despite having had a great time in the moment. I've noticed over the last couple of years, I feel depressed after going out with friends, even if I have a good time during… Crying itself is healing during and after meditation. It feels so heartening to know that I have talked previously with a few people. When I finally heard her cry and got to hold her it was the most relieving feeling in the world. If you haven't socialize in long time, first dozen times of socializing would feel mighty tiring to you but keep it up. No idea why, I'm the same way it's not like I'm thinking about it consciously so not sure how to solve it. That's ok as long as you learn from them. They are sensitive and get overwhelmed when they consume beyond their limit energies of other souls. They also won’t understand when people are trying to end the conversation, which will only be more frus Last night I went to a party and it really made me realize that I don't know how to socialize with people my age. s. it’s all about being distracted from the negative thoughts. his presence is like a drug- i crave more when i withdraw. Wasn't pleasant. These days she cries and it makes her feel better inside. I wanted to hear her crying so badly. Reminder to everyone: Use spoiler tags when necessary. But hey, I guess maybe its good to show people that its okay to cry and have those emotions. i usually cry after hanging out with my boyfriend. . The worst is during the holiday season, when I'll be visiting/being visited by lots of people who I'm unlikely to see at any other time and they My wife can go from laughing to crying and then back to laughing, and in all the chaos, it can be difficult to tell which one she's doing at any given time. i think this can be applied to your situation. I've been coerced in the past to socialize. I’ve attended close friend’s funerals and didn’t cry, I’ll have a breakup and won’t cry. I keep rehashing every conversation I had, wondering if I said something stupid/how people perceived me. For no reason. Posted by u/mochibebe_ - 27 votes and 76 comments Yes. Crypto Yeah I can totally relate. I have loads of friends in the outside world. My jaw always seems to tense up whenever I am socializing with friends or at a social gathering. Posted by u/No_Wallaby_1584 - 4 votes and 4 comments But then when I'm out of the situation and alone, yeah I'll start crying. So essentially you aren’t communicating with other people the way they are used to communicating, so you will probably come off as frustrating. he distracts me from the thoughts and the pain, and on top of that he makes me feel so loved. My suspicion is that the story is mostly untrue. I could have the best and most relaxing day long event with my dad, whom i had a great relationship with and felt extremly unjudged/ relaxed with (rest in peace), yet id still cry in the car when leaving his house. Reminder to OP: Please flair the post appropriately and tag the post as spoiler if necessary. I feel bitter and end up crying. It's not that I want negative interactions either, they're even worse. I think it probably had. Get up and do it again, and will continue until it’s okay. It’s feels like I’m not integrating with society socially or emotionally. I find that even a bit of socializing in the evening leaves my brain abuzz and me unable to fall asleep. Last week I even cried out of laughter! I didn't know it was possible :D Personally I love meeting/talking to new people and going out. Oct 2, 2024 路 I'm by no means an expert when it comes to socializing, but I've worked on improving it a lot with my own kind of exposure therapy, and when forced to, I've been told by several people on independent occasions that I actually do pretty well. Holy shit that part hit deep. I’m more vulnerable but also more calm and honest to my inner self after those tears. We got you. Nobody is perfect After all your effort you might still slip up, makes mistakes, says embrassing things etc. I get depressed because of how anxious I was during the time I spend with them. I don't even properly understand my emotions now. When help does not come, we feel (and are) abandoned, rejected. They may will not change their mind about it, but i learned to see that differently. Often after socializing, I find myself thinking back to the conversations and questioning my behavior and wondering if I said the right thing or responded the right way. Would study so much but the information not going in. Also celebrated 1st of May with very little alcohol but lots of people. Nov 2, 2022 路 When I got to my room I began crying, not hardcore or anything; it just felt frustrating because I felt like I made myself look stupid and easy to walk over. I tried talking to this guy online. Right after, I get depressed. Sometimes this happens during conversation and people question if I am happy. I’m right there with you and so are a lot of folks here. Even after a day of hanging out with just one friend, I'd still be tired. I basically eliminated all the nonsense in my life and start med focusing on MY Yep, after a few hours of socializing my social battery gets quite low. Feeling them is the only way out. Crying at any time, for any person, is okay. This is not your social anxiety acting up and you overreacting, this kid is a BULLY. While, a weekend/couple of days by myself with no interactions with other people is heaven. I do agree that videotaping yourself crying or like full-on sobbing is too much though. Edit: Lol I love these replies - thank God I found my people cos I really used to feel like a bad person for being like this. Business, Economics, and Finance. Feb 10, 2024 路 It’s feels like I’m not integrating with society socially or emotionally. So to comfort her, just make her comfortable crying. He was sixty and I think that he fed on my youth and vitality, leaving me with nothing. The sole motive for Henke modifying his story must relate to the fact that after the war he elected to join the Communist Party and live in East Germany. We are human!! Its never hurt the therapeutic relationship for me. I dumped her, didn’t cry the first two months, after that I cried very very frequently once I realized I fucked up and shouldn’t have left, I still cry fairly often after 10 months, but she moved on to someone new and seems very happy, I seem to still feel like I’ll never love again and while I’m with the new girl I’m with I always My daughter didn’t cry for 45 mins or so when she was born and I was absolutely terrified. It's weird. I’m undiagnosed too, and it’s also much more clear in my undiagnosed father. When I got to my room I began crying, not hardcore or anything; it just felt frustrating because I felt like I made myself look stupid and easy to walk over. This happened to me SO MANY TIMES. And it’s so painful to feel like this feeling so unimportant and useless, why am I so bad at socializing especially in group settings. Crying is healthy, so don't feel like you need to stop her from doing it. I just came back from a 5 day class trip and I feel awful. Active social time is fun, but takes a lot out of me. He is famous for uncompromising criticisms of traditional European morality and religion, as well as of conventional philosophical ideas and social and political pieties associated with modernity. I told him why I was crying. In fact, a lot of people feel the way you do, so it's unfortunately the new normal. I was the only one that was sitting by myself for almost an hour. I also usually get this feeling after being around my parents. I had the similar experience. It can be tough to process what's happening at the moment, especially in regards to finer details such as body language, tone, sarcasm, etc. I wanted to proof that I can still live some kind of normal life and I am happy I did this. I cried after my dad left me at the uni accommodation which is rare for me, but i needed 5-10 minutes just to get it out. It sounds ridiculous but if the social battery runs out, you can do nothing but to recharge yourself. There were about 6 of us, some of whom I didn't know. I just have a cat to talk to at home. Years ago with family were on a wedding of a step relative. itagsi zgx ugbubk cyvc imef kycxrb bmdl zentr vxrjeyas bmfjzok gogrta csq dcopn hff shbog